So if it seems assured that with dilution of the must after the first fermentation is complete and after I add additional sugar in the form of honey or fruit, if Sorbate alone isn't enough to halt fermentation
Sorbate alone is never enough. Use sulphites, then sorbate later. I've seen 12hrs and 24 hrs mentioned as later
and there's still plenty of yeast biomass there to carry on
There's always yeast to carry on
, how do I stop the fermentation from going out of control?
If it started it might be difficult to stop again. Use sulphites and sorbate to prevent it from happening in the first place. There are unreliable ways to stop ferments tat I won't go into now
Or in the case of back sweetening and changing the alcohol content of the must with more honey or what have you, do I just let it ferment to it's tolerance again?
You could let it ferment again. Assuming you fed plenty of honey you will have residual sweetness and this is sweetening by the step feeding way. You might get higher alcohol levels than you expected though
It almost seems like a lose lose. I assumed Sorbate would keep the yeast dormant till they died their natural death.
Not just sorbate
But I assume now that if you really want the fermentation to cease you have to treat it with sorbate or sulfites after racking and again before bottling?
Sulfites after racking to prevent oxidation and/or refermentation. Sorbate before bottling. You can Sorbate early much before back sweetening but there's no need to and technically its worse although people might say it doesn't really make much difference
I know that cold crashing has been thrown around as an option, but does that prove more effective at actually killing off the yeast, or is that just another means by which they're rendered inert?
they don't die. They're rendered inert because the temp goes below their fermentation temp. Cold crashing becomes less effective if your batch is large because yeast generate their own heat and because it might not fit in your fridgeSometimes cold crashing fails because the yeast don't go fully dormant before adding sulphites or the mazer takes the mead out the fridge too soon after adding sulphites
Yeast do die off by time but it seems that some yeast always remain in your batch ready to re-awaken at the opportune time. Probably if you were to graph yeast population vs time the curve will be one of those curves which always approach yeast population = 0 without ever touching the value. Search yeast death phase on google images and it seems to be true. I don't post an image here since it seems there aren't images from actual studies and images don't exactly agree on the shape of the curve. Most are curves as I describe though. I can't be bothered to look for a wine study with such an image