wouldnt that be an indication that pressure outside the carboy is far higher than inside? Wouldnt that mea it would be safe to bottle?
Unfortunately no. It does mean that fermentation has stopped, but yeast can wake up again, even years later, due to the liquid being agitated, temp changes, and things I don't understand.
Am I really at risk for exploding bottles?
I've read alot of bottle bomb stories, but they all seem to be from folks who bottle after two weeks or a few months of fermentation, before mead has truly cleared.
That is indeed generally when it's dangerous, but any time you're bottling a sweet mead (that hasn't gone totally dry) even after aging there is still some amount of risk. After bottling keeping it in the fridge (always) can help prevent any refermentation. Also, you can open one to drink (or even to re-cap) every week or two and keep an eye on it. If it starts carbonating that means fermentation is alive and well - so you'd better drink them soon!
Also, Don't some folks carbonate mead, afterall?
If my mead seems totally cleared and inactive to the eye, isn't it likely that the worst thing that could happen is my still mead is a bit carbonated?
The worst that could happen is that it's too carbonated and explodes! Remember too, while stronger bottles can take more pressure, if pushed past their breaking point they will also create an even more powerful explosion.
Carbonating beer is a very controlled process. You let it ferment as fully as it possibly can (and since beer is almost always below the ABV tolerance of the yeast, it's much safer to assume it's done without a hydrometer than mead is, because mead is much higher ABV and may have just put the yeast to sleep before they were done eating) and then you add a carefully pre-planned amount of new sugar.
If your mead has more than that amount of sugar left it could potentially explode.
5 months in.... how much sugar can even be left in 56 ounces of honey???
Lots, if the yeast stalled due to low nutrients, temp problems, etc. Or if there was just too much sugar for it's normal performance even. Fermentation generally takes no longer than 2 weeks, so everything after that doesn't necessarily count. Of course, it could have completely eaten every bit of sugar, and you could have a totally dry mead - which would mean you'd be safe to bottle, but there's no way of knowing without a hydrometer.
3.5 lbs in 1 gallon is a decent amount of honey, you're likely still looking at a fair bit of sugar left.
What yeast did you use?
The problem isn't always that fermentation is continuing slowly, the problem is that it can come to a dead stop, stay there for ages, then start right up again later.
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Now, I don't recommend it, but I have bottled sweet meads without stabilizing them before. I keep them cold though, and they're in thick glass with corks, not caps, so if fermentation does start up I sort of have a pressure release on there (one that could fail easily though, corks doesn't mean it's safe).
Here's my advice if you're decided you're going ahead and bottling: if you can, rack that mead one more time to get it off the sediment (this will help prevent you from sucking up sediment when bottling later), wait at least a couple weeks then bottle.
If you have flip tops, that's the best, easy to open many times to make sure it hasn't started up fermenting. If not, then cap or cork or whatever you're planning and put them into the fridge immediately - this is where they live now. Drink them often (shouldn't be a problem!) and if there's just a tiny bit of bubbles that can just be left over from fermentation, but if theres new sediment AND a fair bit more bubbles, you'd better drink em all soon!
I would just tell you to wait and get a hydrometer, but it sounds like based on local advice you're getting that you're just going to go for it. So if you're gonna do it, I'd rather have at least minimized the risks (if you drink them all fairly soon and keep them cold, the risk is in my opinion very low).